“I HAD TO GO THROUGH TIMES OF ISOLATION TO COME WITH TERMS WITH WHO I WAS AND WHAT I WAS.”
I have never been one of the people that stay alone. I have always been surrounded by people. Always been like this that I think I am afraid to face what it would be like if they were taken from me and that I had to live in isolation for some time. But recently I have started thinking about some things. Things like who I am and what I want. I found myself incapable of answering myself. I don’t think about myself or by myself. There is always someone with me driving me to do something or think like what I think people would like. Not people as people, but those who are close to me and this drove me nuts. I mean, I am twenty years old, in a couple of month I would be responsible adult by law and I don’t know who I am, that is not acceptable.
I have decided last week that I will stay alone for the week. That I won’t talk to any of my friends and I won’t tell them a second by second story of what happens in the day. Yes, it was boring at first, but it made me realize what is important and what is not. It made me realize that being alone is not bad, being alone has its benefits.
The first benefit that comes out of being alone is that it makes you realize that being alone is not the same as being lonely and that you might have been lonely while you were surrounded by the so called friends of yours. It also made me realize that not having friends is not the end of the world as long as you have got family up your sleeves, these are the people that matters the most and would love you the most as it is said, family is bound by blood no matter what and you can never escape blood.
Secondly is that not all of your friends are worth your time. If you have ever heard of minimalism lifestyle, you would know that you should only keep things that would bring benefit to you and the same goes with relationships. I found that most of my friendship and relationships don’t bring me any benefit except it helps time pass. The same time that I should do something with it to bring me benefit. It just helped me see who I should keep my ties with and who should I cut ties with. Unfortunately, it happened to be a lot of people that I should cut out of my life.
Third most importantly. When you are alone, it is just you and your thoughts. You know that you are thinking by yourself and not by someone else. I know that relationship might add to your experience in life, but it also put thoughts that aren’t yours in your mind or it might force you to do things you wouldn’t normally do. So you would explore yourself, your ideas, your dreams, your talents. I never even knew mine till now, but I need some more time.
Fourthly, by being alone, you develop some immune system toward the end of relationships; friends or lovers. You would know that you could live without them just fine. You wouldn’t be kept in a bad relationship or with bad people because you are afraid of being alone. You would know that you would be just fine by yourself or maybe better than how you are now.
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